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Custer Agency has private investigators, surveillance specialists and computer forensics experts to help you determine if there is cheating going on in your relationship.

From: Cheatercaught.com

Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? You believe you see signs of a cheating spouse. The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons why the drive to spy is powerful. Here are seven:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and it was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, Hey, this doesn’t fit! I don’t believe it!

To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil.

If the truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY!

Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating husbands or cheating wives often helps the person feel connected to the partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known.

Isn’t it like the game of hide-and-seek we used to play as children? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and a game is at least some contact, some involvement. You miss the connection and try to find someway to maintain the ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution to the relationship. You want to know the truth. You sense something does not fit. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are up against. You are not willing to stand pat and wait.

You are a person of action. You want some sort of movement. You want to get on with the relationship. You want to get on with your life.

You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant that no one is talking about. You want to know the truth, face the truth, deal with the truth and be free.

4. Cheating husbands or cheating wives often, unfortunately, lead to the demise of marital relationships. If you strongly suspect this to be true for your situation you will want to protect yourself legally. If there is betrayal, lying and deception regarding a third party, other forms of deception may exist financially or in other areas of the relationship. Having “evidence” does have some impact in some court systems. Whether you need to protect yourself legally depends on the kind of affair facing you and the character of your spouse. Please read through my “7 Reasons For an Affair” to determine the situation that faces you. If your spouse is someone who can’t say no, doesn’t want to say no or is acting out rage, please make sure to take protective steps.

5. You may want to protect yourself medically if you suspect you have a cheating husband or wife. You might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you need to know.

Shame, guilt or self-absorption may be so powerful in your partner that it gets in the way of responsibly informing you of the medical dangers when another partner is sexually brought into your relationship.

6. Seeing signs of a cheating spouse often mean secrets. Secrets are work! There is not much written about the impact of a secret in a relationship, but believe me, in over two decades of working with strained relationships day in and day out, keeping a secret has a powerful impact. It is the proverbial elephant sitting in the room that no one dare talk about. People take extraordinary measures to tip toe around it, but it IS there. Emotionally, you can’t miss it. Secrets are a drain. If the secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so. People become depressed. People start doing crazy things. Children start acting out, stop achieving, become listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or the next generation, often carry the emotional load. You want to spy because you don’t want to live with a secret. You want to discover the truth. You want to feel the freeing power of the exposed secret and the opportunity it offers for healing, resolution, a rich relationship and a productive life.

7. Some of us like drama. Soap opera scenarios and adrenaline based lives are a hallmark of our society. We get juiced or pumped up entering into emotional relational triangles that offer intrigue. Without adrenaline, life seems boring or mundane. Perhaps an unspoken reason for an affair may be to fan the fire? Or, you may spy on your cheating spouse to keep the sense of being alive a part of your life.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com

 Custer Agency has private investigators, surveillance specialists and computer forensics experts to help you determine if there is infidelity going on in your relationship.

 From Cheatercaught.com

Extramarital affairs and spousal infidelity are unfortunately commonplace today, and while the statistics may not affect you — the feelings associated with the thoughts that your spouse may be cheating on you cannot be overlooked. Whether you have just started to suspect that your spouse may be cheating on you, or you are ready to either confirm, or disprove, your “gut instinct” — it is much easier to catch a cheater today than it was even a few years ago.

In today’s all-digital world, cheaters have looked to the internet to indulge in extramarital infidelity. In the past, initial-contact meetings and clandestine rendezvous took place in public locations, sometimes far away from home, but nonetheless in the public. Today, there is a significant chance that if your spouse is cheating on you, they have left very obvious tracks of their extramarital affair. For this reason — catching a cheater, even if you do not yet have proof of extramarital infidelity, can be relatively easy.

Now, easy is relative, of course — but online fidelity investigation services have popped up, which, if you are not familiar, gives you the opportunity to “track” your spouse’s online activities on certain websites and through certain services. While it is unfortunate, “married but dating” websites and even so-called “escort” forums are very popular, but to the trained professional, they leave gaping holes where cheaters can be identified, tracked, and caught.

In many cases, an online fidelity investigation can take your spouse’s email address, and use their resources to identify websites that your husband or wife may frequent, dating services that they may belong to, and potentially even identify profiles that your spouse may be using to cheat on you. If you are looking for undeniable proof of a spouse currently caught up in extramarital infidelity, the investigation service can even attempt to make contact with your spouse through their online profile — and after they have confirmed that it is, in fact, your spouse, and the intentions — they can deliver the proof of your spouse’s infidelity to you.

While it is a gut-wrenching feeling to even think that your spouse may be cheating on you, it’s important that once you have that feeling, that you obtain solid proof of their extramarital actions or intentions. The good and bad here is that while technology has made it easier for cheaters to cheat — it has also made it easier for the faithful in a relationship to track, and catch, the cheating spouse.

If your ready to find out the truth and ready to start finding the right investigator you should start with an Internet Google search. Make sure the PI you hire is recognized as an expert in online infidelity investigations. make sure they can provide a report that can be used in court. Check to see if they offer other services you may need such as asset searches or process service. That way if your investigation escalates to a divorce or custody litigation you can save time and money by staying with a PI familiar with your case.

Custer Agency has private investigators, surveillance specialists and computer forensics experts to help you determine if there is cheating going on in your relationship.

From Cheatercaught.com

Cheating in a relationship is by far one of the worst things you can do. Even if you are not caught, it weight heavily on your conscience. This article will provide the thirteen most obvious signs that you partner is cheating on you. Read carefully and use your own judgment.

1) Your partner is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilt experienced by the cheater in the early stages of their affair. You will notice that your partner is really smuggling you and giving you less privacy than normal. Soon enough, the attention will diminish as the affair extends.

2) Your partner begins buying you a lot of random gifts. These are guilt gifts purchased because your partner feels guilty about betraying you. They feel that showering you with presents makes them feel better on the inside.

3) The behavior of your partner is causing a gut feeling in you that something is not right. If this happens, you should pay attention to your instincts. Ignoring them most likely means you are afraid of the gut wrenching truth. If thing suddenly going out of order, then that means there is a great chance that cheating is taking place.

4) Your partner constantly talks about your relationship ending when you fight or argue. They say things like, “What would you do if our relationship ended?” and other similar things. Overall, your partner seems very negative about the relationship. They will make these statements because they have another lover to fall back on if your current relationship ends. If your partner repeats these kinds of statements, it is up to you to investigate.

5) Your partner will frequently pick random fights with you. Doing this gives them a perfect reason to get mad and storm out of the house to meet the other lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions they feel about betraying you.

6) Your partner becomes very moody. They seem very upbeat and excited when leaving you, but act depressed each time they are around you. If your partner is in a long term affair, they will try to keep both relationships running simultaneously. Any problems they have in one relationship will spill over into the other relationship as well. It is basically all about perfect timing for their success.

7) Your partner’s taste in music suddenly changes. For example, they always listened to classical music but suddenly start listening to hip hop. Your partner might be listening to and growing fond of this new type of music because the other lover enjoys it. They are trying to keep a strong bond with the other lover.

Your partner will gradually stop communicating with you. They will seem rather detached from you emotionally. It will feel as though you have lost your current lover and are living with a complete stranger. Over time they will become colder towards your feelings.

9) Your partner’s self esteem will begin to decrease. This does not necessarily mean they will go out and have an affair, but an insecure individual will look to others for guidance. If an insecure person’s needs are not being met, they will find this with another person elsewhere.

10) Your partner continually criticizes another person. They are basically trying to make you think that type of individual would never be of interest to them. However, behind your back, there is a secret relationship between the two.

These are only a few of the many signs that you partner is cheating on you. It is ultimately up to you to further investigate this and take action. There is no reason for you as the innocent partner to get hurt in the long run. And remember to always trust your instincts.

From Cheathercaught.com

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” – Shakespeare.

What matters is what something is, not what it is called. Whether you call us an Investigator, a Detective, a Private Investigator, a Private Detective, a Private Eye or a PI, Custer Agency is still a Boise Idaho based company that specializes in Investigations, Surveillance, Computer Forensics and Security Consulting.

The following is from Wikipedia:

A private investigator or private detective (often shortened to PI or private eye) is a person who can be hired by individuals or groups to undertake investigations. Private investigators often work for attorneys in civil cases. Many work for insurance companies to investigate suspicious claims. Before the advent of no-fault divorce, many private investigators were hired to search out evidence of adultery or other illegal conduct within marriage to establish grounds for a divorce. Despite the lack of legal necessity for such evidence in many jurisdictions, according to press reports collecting evidence of adultery or other “bad behavior” by spouses and partners is still one of the most profitable activities investigators undertake, as the stakes being fought over now are child custody, alimony, or marital property disputes.

Many jurisdictions require PIs to be licensed, and they may or may not carry firearms depending on local laws. Some are ex-police officers, some are former federal agents, some are ex-spies and some are ex-military, although many are not. Most of them do not arrest criminals or put them in custody. They are expected to keep detailed notes and to be prepared to testify in court regarding any of their observations on behalf of their clients. Great care is required to remain within the scope of the law; otherwise the investigator may face criminal charges. Irregular hours may also be required when performing surveillance work.

PIs also engage in a large variety of work that is not usually associated with the industry in the mind of the public. For example, many PIs are involved in process serving, the personal delivery of summons, subpoenas and other legal documents to parties in a legal case. The tracing of absconding debtors can also form a large part of a PI’s work load. Many agencies specialize in a particular field of expertise. For example, some PI agencies deal only in tracing. Others may specialize in technical surveillance countermeasures (TSCM), or Electronic Counter Measures (ECM), which is the locating and dealing with unwanted forms of electronic surveillance (for example, a bugged boardroom for industrial espionage purposes). Other PIs, also known as Corporate Investigators, specialize in corporate matters, including anti-fraud work, the protection of intellectual property and trade secrets, anti-piracy, copyright infringement investigations, due diligence investigations and computer forensics work.

Increasingly, modern PIs prefer to be known as “professional investigators” or Licensed Private Investigators (LPI’s) rather than “private investigators” or “private detectives”. This is a response to the image that is sometimes attributed to the profession and an effort to establish and demonstrate the industry to be a proper and respectable profession.

Throughout history it’s been easy to recognize infidelity, even if you personally haven’t experienced it. If you’ve ever been to the movies or watched a soap opera, you have some idea of what it looks like: the surreptitious glances, the hurried meetings in unoccupied hallways, the quick stripping of the clothes, the sweaty bodies, the quick throwing-on of the clothes followed by the, “Who, me?” look.

Yes, you may think you know what cheating looks like, but the fact is that infidelity has changed in the last two decades. It involves all kinds of communication, interactions and hooking up that neither Shakespeare nor D.H. Lawrence could have ever dreamed up, and it’s harder than ever to figure out whether your mate has broken your marital vows.

So forget the advice about looking for lipstick on his collar. Here are some tips for figuring out whether your spouse is staying true in the electronic age:

1. Private phone calls. Does he go off into another room to answer his cell phone? Of course, if your husband or wife works for the CIA, then privacy might be necessary. But if there’s no special person outside of your relationship, then there’s no special reason why all conversations shouldn’t be public. You may not care to hear discussions about how the neighbor just bought a new leaf blower, but if it were an innocent conversation, your spouse wouldn’t be running into the next room to take it.

2. Erased history. Do they frequently erase text messages or the call list on their cell phone? The, “Oops, I’d love to show you who called, but I just erased the inbox” excuse runs thin after a while. It’s just not human nature to meticulously erase lists of calls, and often doing so may be a sign that there’s someone sending those texts besides work or family.

3. Private access. Have they recently changed their password or e-mail, or otherwise denied you access. About a decade ago, I counseled a 75-year-old man whose wife threatened divorce because she discovered his emotional affair after she intercepted a birthday card from another woman. Before telephones or computers, the unfaithful spouse would frequently communicate through the postal service. Now, however, things have changed and many affairs are conducted via e-mail correspondence. Couples with nothing to hide should not be hiding e-mail accounts from each other.

4. Powering down. Do they frequently shut down the computer when you come into the room? Chat rooms offer a wonderful way to establish intimacy, which is great if you want to share feelings about having a loved one at war or how to cope with chronic illness. But when chatting is used to establish intimate connections between two people who have an emotional or sexual connection, its wrong. Anything that your spouse is willing to chat about should be something that you should be able to see.

5. Late night logons. Is your spouse on the computer late at night and then their “history” is erased the next day? Some affairs don’t ever have to include meeting a person face-to-face (although more often than not, rendezvous do happen eventually). If your spouse is going on sites to “meet” people, or pornographic sites that involve live chat, then there’s a good likelihood that the connections being made can unravel your marriage.

Being discreet or meticulous about your electronic life doesn’t prove that someone’s having an affair, but if you see any warning signs, you should bring it to your partner’s attention right away. If there is an affair going on, the sooner you know the better. But if there isn’t, then this would be a good time to talk about who should be allowed to electronically intrude into your relationship, and what you should do together to preserve your marriage.

Scott Haltzman, MD is a clinical assistant professor at Brown University Department of Psychiatry and Human Behavior. Dr. Haltzman is also the author of “The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight keys to building a lifetime of connection and contentment,” “The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever,” and “The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to get more out of your relationship by doing less.” You can get more information at his website, www.drscott.com.

Look for these red flags to help protect your marriage. If after reading this you think you may need some help from a Pirvate Investigator or a Computer Forensic expert call me, Neal Custer, Custer Agency, Inc., Boise, Idaho at 208-562-0200. The initial consultation is free.